Confidence, Self Esteem, Social Anxiety

Much of this can come from past experience and the way we were treated by others, and is often a result of a protective mechanism being formed at a subconscious level; this can often start in childhood. The subconscious is saying, ‘don’t stick your head out you might get hurt. This often results in a fear of failure, fear of being judged, fear of not being accepted, or even a fear of being laughed at. Anxiety is the release of adrenaline, cortisol, and noradrenaline being released as a response to fear. Those uncomfortable sensations and associated symptoms such as blushing, sweating, hands, and knees shaking, and stomach-churning are all a result of irrational illogical emotional fears. Public speaking has its roots in these fears and the basic fears are the want for approval and the want for control. A want is a fear of lacking something.

If I could get my wife’s approval all the time it would be fantastic, but is not going to happen. We can’t get one person’s approval all the time and psychologically speaking, 20% of people probably won’t like us for one reason or another. The more we want approval the more we must fear we lack it. When we feel anxious we try to control the anxiety or the symptom. If your hands or knees shake during public speaking the more you try to stop them, the worse they get. If it is blushing that’s the problem, the more you want to control the blushing the more you blush. You feed the problem without even realizing it. These wants are subconscious emotional fears programmed into us usually at an early age.

The second problem is our self-talk. If someone criticizes you, you can ignore it. When you criticize yourself on a continuing basis it is self-hypnosis, self-suggestions right into your subconscious. If you have low self-esteem and someone criticizes you, you will probably have trouble ignoring it and will take it personally. Continual negative self-talk, self-criticizing, nagging, complaining and blaming just reinforce the negative self-esteem and lack of confidence.

Our program is a life coaching program designed to improve self-esteem and confidence. It takes 4 to 6 weeks to change habit patterns of the mind so the program is a six-week program. One session a week where we show you how the mind works and how to change it, finishing with a hypnotherapy session to bring about changes at a subconscious level. A set of four hypnosis recordings to listen to between sessions one recording each day, and a set of 9 recordings that can be listened to in a car teaching you more about yourself while installing the knowledge in your mind through repetition.