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Conscious focus is a choice To start to train the mind we have to understand that we have a choice in the way we focus our creative ability and reclaim our ability to choose. This can be difficult at first. The negative habits of the mind are habits and the ego is a protection mechanism....

Beliefs Many of our beliefs are created by the way people relate to us, especially when we are children. Do these beliefs of the ego work for us or do they create problems for us? Sadly the negative beliefs strip us of our ability to be happy and to achieve what we would like to...

Imagination Our imagination fills in the gaps of perception. We create our reality through our imagination, so what are we creating? So many people create drama in their lives because that’s what they imagine through a system of wanting. They see a lack in their lives and are left lacking. What is wrong with seeing...

Boss Managers Boss Managers disconnect and disempower staff through negative feedback or disconnecting habits or no feedback at all. (When talking about boss managers I am talking about the bossy people that use these disconnecting habits all the time on subordinates thinking they are controlling them.) They see mistakes as opportunities to blame. They destroy...

Lead Managers Lead Managers will connect with and empower staff through positive feedback and connecting habits. They see mistakes as opportunities to learn; they build morale and they know the team creates the results. Staff will enjoy coming to work. They are creative and they take less time off. They feel they belong to a...

The seven disconnecting habits are: Criticising, complaining, nagging, blaming, threatening, punishing, bribing. Even the best of parents will have used these disconnecting habits at some time on their children. A great number of bosses use these disconnecting habits on their staff. It’s the way people bully each other. These are the habits we use to...

The formation of many beliefs What you believe is what you see The old saying ‘seeing is believing’ is the wrong way around. What we believe is what we see. So where do much of our beliefs come from? Most of our beliefs about ourselves, our lives and others come from the way others relate...

The want to escape The want to escape is a distortion of the need for freedom and fun. It usually rears its head because we are stuck in the other wants; approval, control and security. Suicide is the ultimate want to escape. It is the want to escape the current situation or responsibilities in life....

The want for control The want for control is a distortion of the need for empowerment. Empowerment is to have an influence over things in your life. This need for empowerment is often distorted into wanting to control things. You can’t even control your body as it ages. You can’t control another person as most...

The Want for Approval The want for approval is a distortion of the need for love and connection. Is it possible to get one person’s approval all the time? Not likely! Ask my wife. If I could get her approval all the time it would be fantastic, but I am not perfect. I have my...